Research on attachment, stress physiology, and emotion regulation shows that people who shut down during conflict are often experiencing two repeating internal patterns. Interrupting these patterns is ...

Oxygen shaped the world as we know it. It’s why we hiccup and why frogs croak. It’s so good that some turtles have learned to suck it in using not just their nose and mouth, but also… another orifice.

This is where memory is essential to identity formation. The self is assembled not from everything that has happened to us, but from what the brain has chosen to preserve and retrieve.