How is defensiveness hurting your relationship? Well, if you're regularly defensive in your relationship your partner will feel unsafe with you. They won’t want to share with you, they won’t feel connected, you will lose intimacy and depth. And this causes you to suffer too. This isn’t a real relationship, it’s a battlefield. Working in your defensiveness can change your life, along with your relationship. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avoi

Defensiveness is one of the Four Horsemen that can derail a relationship, shifting blame onto your partner and creating distance instead of connection. Watch as John and Julie share insights on fostering healthier dialogue by reframing your responses. By focusing on avoiding criticism and contempt, you can remain open and receptive. Pay attention to both your reactions and your partner's—this mindfulness can pave the way for deeper understanding and a more supportive relationship. (Original Vide

Working on defensiveness requires self-awareness, and a desire to want to be truly accepted and understood. When we lay down a defense mechanism we are simultaneously opening ourselves up to vulnerability. In order to have a true connection you have to lay down the actions that distance you from your partner, and be open to trying more effective tools that lead to meaningful interactions. #marriage #attachmentstyle #traumahealing #marriagecoach #couplegoals #marriagegoals #avoidantattachment #an